I don't think so, personally I lean towards the side that states that most people get hitch just cause they feel the pressures of society. I have finished college, got a good job, whats next? Oh, its marriage. Are you kidding me!?!?! That might be the stupidest ever.
I know you guys are wondering why this topic, well its because i just came from a wedding this weekend. It was my childhood friends time to tie the knot. He meets all the requirements about. Graduated, has a promising career (Police Officer), why not get married is what he made me feel was his reasoning. I made sure to ask him if he was sure with his decision as all good friends MUST do for their fellow gender. You don't want them committing a silly "I am an adult now so I can make these types of decisions" mistake. In his case, I wish him the best, he married his high school sweet heart, Awwwww, I know, clinches sicken me too. She is a good girl, smart, attractive, funny, sarcastic as they come. They definitely have their shit together, they just purchased a house and are all set to move in very soon. I am guessing they will throw a huge house warming party but I digress.
Back to the point, It just feels as if society has taken a larger role in peoples life, setting standards and peer pressuring people to take the next step. I am assuming that this is one of the main reasons why we have such a high divorce rate. People don't put enough thought into this type of life altering decision. It scares the bleep out of me, especially after the wedding. I walked into that church and my stomach turned inside out. I was thinking " I cant do this and I am just the best man!" Imagine the GROOM! That some crazy as bleep man!
I want companionship with a wonderful woman, I want someone to spend and share my soul with but I also want to go out, live, be single, mingle, travel, be reckless at times, have no one to hold me back from doing what ever comes up. No thinking, " Man, I want to go to (fill in the place) but I don't know if (fill in the name)is going to mind." Believe it or not, that thought is a holding you back thought. Bottom line is if your not ready to completely commit to something don't commit. Simple as that.
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I don't understand where this is coming from. If they've got their shit together then you should be happy for them. People get married because they love each other, and I don't knoe where marriage ranks up there, but when you truly love someone, marriage is just about the biggest sacrifice you can make.
It means, and I think this is the whole point of marriage, that you love someone so much that you are no longer willing to put yourself first anymore, that your life is no longer just about you. That's love, that's just true love. The only greater thing I can think of right now is having children.
Yes, I definitely agree that marriage is not for everyone, but if two people make that decision then you should be happy for them and trust that it will work out for them.
Ho, you always take the opposing point of view and argue as if we are bashing it. If people are ready and willing and their hearts are into it then by all means go ahead and get married. But in todays society it seems as if more and more people get married for the wrong reasons. Hence the high divorce rates, which in turn affect the children from those marriages, which then end up affecting those childrens future offspring. Case in point, its not a good cycle to be a part off.
This post was not to bash the people getting married, it stems from wondering about marriage and the problems I have noticed. Its become the next step after college, people are done and they say whats next? Marriage? Ok, lets do it. Not such a good idea but thats how it seems to happen.
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